Many couples go down the road of reciting traditional vows for their weddings, "to have and to hold till death do us part", but writing your own vows is a meaningful, emotional, and guaranteed to be memorable. The exchanging of vows is one of the most intimate moments in your wedding and writing your own will add that special touch.
So, if you want to write your vows but not sure how to begin then you're in the right place because we have some great tips to help you get started!
GET THE O.K
Unfortunately, some ceremony officiants will not allow personalized vows, may require traditional vows, or might have some restrictions on your vows so make sure you have clearance before embarking on the writing process.
Give yourself some wiggle room for writing. It's always a benefit to be able to write your vows, step away, and then come back to review. Preparing in advance will allow you to practice and feel more relaxed. Plus, it also helps in eliminating some of the jitters you may encounter if you decide to write them the night before
Just because you're writing personalized vows doesn't mean you can't incorporate some traditional lines as well! You can look to traditional vows or religious vows and work in your vows to make it more customized to you. Another option if you decide to mix the two is reciting traditional vows and then throwing some personalized lines at the very end.
TOGETHER OR INDIVIDUAL
A big question is whether you and your partner will want to sit down and collaborate on writing your vows or step away and surprise one another on the big day. If you decide to write them separately, selecting a general structure may be a good idea to ensure a pair of vows that match but still maintain your voice.
Keep in mind that for some the surprise element may be stressful so evaluate the kind of people you are and discuss with your partner whether the surprise will be fun and exciting or an added stresser.
Details are so imperative to personalizing your vows. Choose words that represent how you feel about your partner or ones that reflect your passion for one another. By using the small details, you are able to symbolize your relationship perfectly to how you see it.
A few ideas of things you could use are: What do you love most about your partner? What does he/she appreciate most about you? How do those things contribute to your relationship? And what could you continue to work on to make your relationship better and everlasting?
IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU
Remember that ultimately, this is your day. If you're a funny person then use that to your advantage in your vows. If you're a poetic and romantic person then use that! It's okay if your vows are silly, sappy, short, or even if you want to sing your vows! This is your day and your moment, so these vows sound like you, and if they are sincere, then you can do no wrong.
For some additional motivation in writing your vows, here is an excerpt from the movie, The Vow, where Leo (played by Channing Tatum), and Paige (played by Rachel McAdams), exchange their custom vows that were written on the back of menus.
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